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Welcome to the Akashic musings podcast. My name is Laura Mazzotta and I will be your guide during the sacred experience. I'm an Akashic healer and teacher, and I've also been a therapist for almost 20 years. This podcast is your go to opportunity for all things healing, inspiration and Empowerment. I will be sharing potent wisdom from divine intelligence in the space of the Akashic Records. For more understanding of what the Akashic Records are, I encourage you to listen to episode one, or head over to my website at WWW dot v Akashic therapist.com. I'm so grateful to have you here, receiving the powerful energetic shifts that radiate through these messages. Just by listening in you're doing your part to raise the vibration of the planet, and fully realize our natural state of wellness and vitality. Without further ado, here's today's episode.
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Hello, my friend and welcome to another episode of the Akashic musings Podcast. Today we're going to be talking about the four stages of forgiveness. You may have heard me speak before on previous episodes about how I know very clearly, that we cannot, absolutely cannot fully heal without forgiveness, without diving into a process of forgiveness with our family members, with people in our lives with our loved ones with our past with experiences with our bodies with money, with our heart space, deep forgiveness of previous experiences that have left us feeling victimized, or feeling inadequate, or disempowered. This is so necessary, I cannot stress it enough. And so many people shy away from this concept of forgiveness, or they do it but they do it at a surface level. And it's really important for you to realize that sinking into the depth of forgiveness work is critical for moving forward, the band aid approach will help, it will absolutely help and it'll give you some temporary relief. But then you're going to have repeated issues showing up in your life, you're going to either have them showing up as health issues, or chronic patterns that show up either as doubt, or relationship patterns or issues with money or keeping a job things like that. They're just gonna keep showing up. If you don't go deeply enough, and the vast majority of people in this world don't go deeply enough. They don't take the time, space and patience to really sink into what it is they need to really nourish and nurture themselves. Not just your inner child, but your heart space, your desires, your next level of who you are to have that firm belief in yourself for who you're becoming. Right. So, I want to talk about the four stages of forgiveness because some people think All right, well, I just need to go forgive them. So just need to decide, well, yes, forgiveness is a decision. It starts with that for sure. But people shy away from it because it can be very uncomfortable. It can be raw, it can be vulnerable. And honestly, when we do it right, we are uncovering lessons and truths about ourselves that we may have been trying to avoid for a while. Okay, so the first stage of forgiveness is grief. You need to grieve a previous version of yourself or you need to grieve that this relationship or this experience did not unfold in the way that you ideally desired. And it's okay to feel upset about that it's okay to feel angry, or sad or disappointed or guilty. Although I think guilt is the most unwarranted emotion that we experience and I always tell my clients the only reason that you deserve or or benefit, I should say from feeling guilty is when you've done something to intentionally harm someone else, which is completely unnecessary the vast majority of the time and the only reason that that is beneficial to feel the guilt is so that You have the lesson, right? Your your attention, your attention is being called to extracting the wisdom that you needed from this experience. So grief is really important because grief has its own process, okay? It's not like, oh, well, you can grieve for six months, and then you're done. And you've got to move on, no matter what we're grieving. It has its own timeline, and we need to honor its timeline. So that means that it can show up at random times without you necessarily understanding why it's coming into your field. That's okay, honor it, respect it, be gentle with it, love it, and it will move through. There's been so many times that I've grieved in my life. And sometimes I have thought on a conscious level that this grief process was going to take forever based on the nature of the experience. And it was fairly quick. And then other ones where I didn't feel that consciously attached to but took a very, very long time. So we don't necessarily know what connections and chords are existing underneath the surface energetically.
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And we need to trust the process. And just allow the grief to come forward when it's meant to so that we can move it through our field. Okay, so allow yourself that time and space and journal it out, talk it out, allow yourself to be held, and give yourself moments where you're setting that timer for 20 minutes and allowing yourself to solve it out. And then you're going to, you know, pull up your bootstraps and go out for a walk in nature. Okay. The second stage of forgiveness is acceptance. This is you accepting that this situation unfolded or this relationship or experience as a previous version of you unfolded in exactly the way it was meant to, for you to move forward on your path. So it's understanding that there's a reason for it, you don't need to know what the reason is, you may never find out and you may. But release attachment to the outcome. That's a big piece of acceptance. Just because it didn't unfold in exactly the way that I desired or I thought it was going to unfold. Does it doesn't mean that it wasn't right for me at the time, because I tell you, the universe knows a hell of a lot about a hell of a lot more about what's better for you than you do. So it's offering that trust and surrender more to the universe. And trusting that there's a higher vision that these puzzle pieces are going to be fitting into a beautiful masterpiece. By the end of your lifetime. And beyond. The third step is appreciation. This is one of the hardest ones for people. Getting to the point where you actually feel gratitude and appreciation for this unfolding in your life. Because of the awareness you've brought forward because of the lessons because of the connections because of the next steps you've taken, that you didn't necessarily anticipate coming into your life. It's appreciating that this person who might have been super, super abusive to you, or this experience that might have been shocking and traumatic. happened for a reason. That's the acceptance part. And you appreciate that the universe sent you a message of love, even though it is veiled in something that you identify as negative in human form, if that makes sense. We judge things we label things as positive or negative. It's all just energy. It's all just flow flowing through our field to create whatever the universe needs to weave through us. And when we can appreciate that we're being used as an instrument of the universe. Wow, isn't that a gift? And yes, sometimes we might feel uncomfortable delivering that message we might feel uncomfortable feeling into whatever it is we need to feel into to be able to move forward from this. But we know confidently at some level that it's in our best good, it's in our highest good that the universe loves us that the universe desires for us to move energy. Hand guess what knows we can frickin handle it. That's the cool part. when shit hits the fan in my life. My first response is always thank you because I know that whatever's coming next is going to blow my socks off. And I also say thank you because I know that the universe knows that I'm ready for the next lesson. I'm ready for the next level. I'm ready to get to my next level of phenomenal and I'm so here for that. So here for that. Okay, step four, the last stage of forgiveness. So number one, we have grief. Number two, we have acceptance. Number three, we have appreciation Number four is celebration. This is a very critical component that I highly encourage you not to gloss over the level of importance of celebration is huge. Because what you're doing is you're internalizing that vibration of what you desire into your field and the universe hears that and the universe will bring you more of it. So you are celebrating that this experience or relationship, or previous version of you existed, came into your world, shook things up a little bit, offered you the opportunity to move through this process process, to learn your lessons to appreciate yourself was the last time you really sat down and appreciated yourself. All of you, all layers of you. And celebration can look like anything
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that can be having a piece of dark chocolate, it can be having a dance by yourself, going out to dinner, buying yourself flowers, just calling a friend and squealing okay, just make sure that you don't gloss over it. Because celebration is really going to internalize this shift for you. And it's really going to signal to the universe that you've officially forgiven in whatever this area of your life is that you've been called to forgive. And forgiveness doesn't set other people free. It's not for other people, it's for us, right we do this for ourselves, we do it for the collective, because we're not carrying around that density in that weight. And if we do, that's how we get sick friends. That's how we get sick, whether we're talking about mental health or, or physical health. Okay, so it's very preventive. And I promise you, every human on this planet has experienced something in their lives that they need and desire to forgive. Have you taken the time to do it. This doesn't mean that you need to do this for every area of your life, what I encourage is think about where you want to go. Think about what you want to accomplish, from your soul from your heart space, in this lifetime, and you are going to choose to forgive the things that interfere with your progress toward that purpose that you're going to fulfill. Okay, this doesn't mean you have to forgive every little thing that's happened in your life, unless it keeps coming up repeatedly as an obstacle to your growth. Okay, so we have grief, acceptance, appreciation, and celebration. When you're celebrating, you're also celebrating the universe. You're celebrating your co creation and your collaboration with the universe. You're celebrating that you are a child of God, you are celebrating that you are a vessel for bringing forward inspiration and healing to the planet. Even if you're just doing this on the microcosm with your family and your loved ones. So take these steps and implement them in your own timeline at your own pace. Listen to your body. Allow your body to give you information about when it's time to move on to the next step. Trust me, you will know the more time space and patience you open for yourself to do this work. The greater clarity you will have about when to move on to the next step. And don't set up a timeline that restricts you and restricts this process to the egoic. Allow the flow between these stages. And reach out to me and let me know how it goes. Let me know how you're doing with it. Let me know where you are, what stage you're in. Because guess what? That's even celebrating yourself along the way. Celebrating that you're committed to it celebrating that you are preventing health issues, depression, anxiety, disconnection, frustration, scarcity. You can open up so much when you implement these four stages. And I would love to hear about it so I can celebrate with you. And we can pass that right on to the universe and bring in the magic. So thank you so much for listening, and I'll see you next week.
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Thank you for joining me for this episode of the Akashic musings Podcast. I'm so grateful you're taking the time to end To greet healing at the deepest level. If you loved this episode, connect with me on Instagram at emerge healing & wellness or contact me through my website at WWW dot the Akashic therapist.com I'll see you next week on the next episode of the Akashic musings podcast. Bye for now and have a wonderful week.
